There are so many times in life that things have happened to us or people have let us down. We get so boggled down with how these things made us feel that we keep ourselves in a mental bondage. The key thing that we must do is…FORGIVE!
Forgiveness is so important! We often times get so caught up in wanting the other person to “pay for what they did to us” or we want them to “feel bad like they made you feel bad” but the truth is, you end up being the only one still hurt in this situation. While you are holding on to what someone did to you, they are out living life like it’s golden and you are stuck in a rut because you want them to pay for what they did.
My Ex-boyfriend of about 7 years (on and off) hurt me so bad. I just thought life was over. I wanted him to pay for everything that he did to me. I wanted him to hurt like I hurt. I wanted him to be embarrassed like he embarrassed me. I want him to apologize on a mountain top so that the world could hear. I mean, I want him to put it on a blimp and fly it above the sky so that EVERYONE could see that he was sorry. Even though he apologized numerous times, I wasn’t impressed. I needed him to sincerely feel the pain. It seemed that the more I wanted all of these things, the more he was living his life. After we broke up, he had girlfriend after girlfriend. He was able to move on. He was taking pictures with his new girlfriends and here I was single year after year while he was living life. One day, I was praying to God that he would make him pay for everything he did and God had to stop me right in my tracks. “Tara, what if he never gives you the apology that you think you deserve? What if this never happens? Are you going to hold this grudge forever? Are you going to watch his every move and torture yourself when you see how happy he is? What are you going to do?” It hit me ya’ll! I mean I just sat there like “Wow, you’re right!” I’m moping around and complaining while he is living his life.
God had to really explain and help me understand forgiveness. He calls us to forgive. He charges us to forgive. I have let God down a NUMEROUS of times and I want him to forgive me each time. Now that one little person hurt my feelings, I am fainting all falling all over the place. Really? When you don’t forgive people you hold yourself back. You miss out on life constantly looking and wishing that the person that hurt you somehow gets hurt. The bible says “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew 6:14). The bible also reminds us that we are to forgive 70 times 7 (Matthew 18:22) but we have a problem forgiving 1 times 1.
Covered Lady, forgive and let go! It’s time to live your life. It’s time to live in joy. It’s time to let go of all that baggage. Don’t look at forgiveness as a sign of weakness but as a sign of strength. It takes a strong person to forgive someone that has done you wrong. The time is now sis! FORGIVE, SO THAT YOU CAN FINALLY LIVE!!